A new social media post is leaving the internet torn as a woman says she didn’t leave her room during a family holiday when her fiancé threw her into a swimming pool against her wishes.
Posted on Reddit’s infamous “AmITheA**hole” forum, u/amelia244 shared her story with the community to see if she was wrong. The viral post currently has 6,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The Redditor explained that she had a fear of large bodies of water due to a near drowning as a child. She said few people knew about her phobia.
Aquaphobia is the fear of water, such as swimming pools, lakes, or even a bathtub, via Healthline. Thalassophobia is a fear of deep bodies of water like the ocean, via VeryWellMind. Phobias can cause dizziness, lightheadedness, nausea, feeling overwhelmed, and high anxiety.
While vacationing with her fiancé’s family, they did many activities, including being in or around the water. To avoid these certain activities, she liked to read a book or spend time with her future mother-in-law since she didn’t participate either.
To her surprise, the Redditor’s fiancé threw her in the pool. She ended up fainting and woke up very disoriented. The doctor who treated her told her fiancé she was in shock and needed time to get back to normal.
She wrote that she stayed in her room for most of the vacation, even though she felt better. Her fiancé even tried to get her to eat with the family but she refused. He apologized several times because he felt bad about what had happened.
“Eventually his cousin’s wife came to me and told me that I should come downstairs and hang out with everyone since I was making my fiancé feel like shit and he was already fighting enough without me making it worse by hiding in the bedroom all day,” she wrote.
Her fiancé’s cousin’s wife said the Reddit user was “ruining everyone’s vacation”. She also admitted that she didn’t tell her fiancé about her extreme fear of water.
The editors were quick to comment,
“If he didn’t even know about this trauma, you two aren’t ready to get married. How long have you known each other? Not long,” u/TinyTurtle88 received the top comment with 12,000 votes positive.
They continued: “If he had known and done that I would have pulled out the divorce card, it’s such a serious matter. It’s really messed up to play with someone’s trauma. But now he didn’t know… So not his fault for not knowing, not your fault if you have an unresolved trauma/phobia and its associated symptoms (loss of consciousness, fatigue, social withdrawal, etc.). [No a**holes here].”
“Soft, tender [Everyone sucks here]. When you have a phobia, communication is key to preventing it from happening. You should have told him about it and explained why long before you went on vacation with lots of swimming,” u/ShinaSchatten explained.
They added: “You were a [a**hole] for failing to communicate this, but not for your response to falling in the pool. It was one [a**hole] for dumping you in the pool even without knowing your phobia, but now that he knows, I hope it doesn’t happen again.”
“[Everyone sucks here]. Throwing people in a pool is a** behavior whether or not they have water trauma,” exclaimed u/RB1327, “But you’re engaged and never told your fiancé that you had a near drowning childhood incident that left you with a significant phobia like this? Wtf.”
Newsweek contacted u/amelia244 for comment.