A dad has gone viral for admitting he recently told his ‘bratty’ 19-year-old daughter she could either start babysitting her cousin or start paying rent.
Posting on Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) forum under the username u/FunnyChef7259, the dad asked, “AITA for having my eldest daughter babysit even though she’s” without child’s “”post received over 10,000 upvotes and split over 3,000 commenters.
At the beginning of his message, the father explained that he and his wife have three children: Tina, Jason and Ally. Late last year, after the death of her sister-in-law, the couple also welcomed their 4-year-old niece, whose father “is not in the picture”.
“It’s been a huge adjustment for the six of us…but Tina has been complaining since we brought our niece home. In fact, every time Jenny does something typical of a 4 year old that Tina doesn’t like it, she will loudly and rudely comment ‘That’s why I don’t have kids and never will!'” the father wrote.
“A few weeks ago there were big changes to our childcare coverage and now we’ve been out of coverage for about two and a half hours. [Monday through Friday]“, continued the father. “Jason and Ally both agreed to take one day of the week for babysitting duties, when we asked Tina to take the other three, she refused, stating that she had no children and that she meant it.”
So the father gave Tina an ultimatum: either she can take on babysitting duties or start paying rent.
“She yelled and screamed a lot, but when she realized I really wanted to kick her out if she didn’t participate, she agreed to take on the three days of babysitting,” the dad said, adding that Tina had accused him. to be “sexist” and to “discriminate against one’s beliefs”.
In the comments section of his post, the dad admitted that Tina was “fat.” Still, he wanted to know, “Am I the a**hole for forcing my adult daughter’s hand in there?”
Turns out Tina isn’t the only young adult who still lives with her parents. Data from the 2021 census revealed that 58% of people aged 18 to 25 lived with their parents last year.
RBC Wealth Management has stated that “to avoid feelings of resentment and to encourage independence, [adult children] should have responsibilities in the household beyond tending to own space and laundry.”
The company also advised parents to set clear boundaries.
“You have to set limits on how you would like things to happen,” author Jane Adams told RBC. “And if the situation is just intolerable, parents can say, ‘We would like you to make other plans.
Commenters aligned with Adams’ advice agreed that u/FunnyChef7259 was totally within his rights as a parent to force his teenage daughter to babysit.
“NTA [not the a**hole]. I think every once in a while people have to pick one up for the team. You ask an adult for 7.5 hours of work per week in exchange for free room and board. I think that’s fair,” u/YMMV-But wrote.
Redditor u/Dagordae agreed, adding, “She’s an adult who doesn’t pay rent. To contribute or leave is a perfectly valid request, especially when said contribution is as minor as it is…Her status as childless is irrelevant, it just means not having children. Don’t treat children like monsters.
Still, some thought u/FunnyChef7259 was wrong.
“YTA [you’re the a**hole]. You and your wife have decided to take it in, you are responsible for taking care of it. Not your daughter,” u/silfy_star said. “Tbh, you punish her for your decision and your choices, although there are [are] definitely trade-offs here related to cutting expenses.”
Commenter u/fishmom5 wrote: “YTA for using your kids (all) as babysitters. I get it, you had something but it’s not your kids’ responsibility… Tina works and follows classes (online not working She’s 19 (adulthood isn’t a magic switch that flips at 18) and has to share a room with her 14-year-old sister. And then you threatened her stability. Not wonder that she has resentment.
Newsweek contacted u/FunnyChef7259 for comment.
In related news, Reddit supported a mother who said last week that she “exposed” her ex-husband to his former stepmom.
In March, Redditors slammed a mother for “stalking” her daughter to speed up the process of planning her newborn’s funeral. And just days before, commentators slammed a mother who turned her daughter’s school trip into a vacation.